Marie Kondo has inspired millions with her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Netflix series, and her KonMari method for organizing, but there are plenty of other ways to spark joy – no tidying up required! Here are a few to get you started.
How to Spark Joy Through Relationships
We’ve all heard how it’s more blessed to give than receive, but there are actually scientific studies indicating this reality. When we focus externally, on helping and connecting with others and building friendships, we spark joy within ourselves. Here are a few ways to connect with others.
1. Call a Friend for Life-Changing Magic
Pick up the phone and call an old friend you haven’t talked to in a while. It’s so easy to lose touch with some of the people you love the most. In the world of texting and digital communication, pick up the phone and have a meaningful conversation. You’ll be glad you did!
2. Write an Appreciation Letter
Thanking someone for being part of your life, or letting them know how much you mean to them is always nice but writing a letter makes it even more special. One year, instead of a Christmas gift, I wrote a letter to my grandparents thanking them for how much they meant to me over the years. A year to the day after I sent that letter, I was reading it again at my grandfather’s funeral. Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell those closest to you how much you appreciate them.
3. Plan a Night Out and Spark Joy Together
Whether you’re planning a date night, a girls’ night, or reconnecting with a good friend, get out of the house and do something fun!
4. Make New Contacts
There have been numerous studies indicating that friendships and connections with others keep us happy and healthy. If you’re looking to make new relationships, joining an organization is a great way to start! Look into Meetup groups, go to church or another place of worship, sign up for a class that interests you at your local rec center or YMCA, or try a new exercise class. Just these small steps can be great starting blocks to forging lifelong friendships.
5. Spark Joy Through Giving and Volunteer
There are so many fantastic organizations where you can jump in and make a real difference. Feed high-quality meals to disaster-relief victims with Mercy Chefs. Help out with a fundraiser at your child’s school. Visit a nursing home and talk to some of the patients. You can even be a virtual volunteer from the comfort of your home!
6. Send a Meal to Someone Who Needs One
Often communities rally around those who have just had a baby or experienced a death in the family. But there are so many other times people would appreciate a good meal! Maybe send food to a military family where someone is deployed, or a friend going through a really stressful time. You’ll lighten their load, create a meaningful connection, and might bring some life-changing magic to them. You don’t know what to cook? Check our recipes section for some inspiration!
7. Have a Family Dance Party
Not only other families, but your own can need some joy, too! Get your kids and spouse, crank up some of your favorite songs, and just dance like nobody’s watching! You’ll have a blast, plus you’ll burn some calories and get those happy endorphins surging through your body.
8. Plan a Family Fun Night
Whether you’re ordering pizza and watching movies, having a game night, or taking an evening walk to look up at the stars, you’re making great memories together! Organizing a family night is as simple as the ABC’s, just nail down a recurring spot in your schedule for it and let every family member come up with an idea for the next event. Whatever wins the vote will be done.
9. Take a Family Walk or Bike Ride
One of my favorite memories was walking with my then six-year-old daughter who was mesmerized by the way the cement road was shimmering in the moonlight. We just took a 2-block walk, but it was beautiful to see the world through her eyes.
10. Take a Bath
Turn on relaxing music, dim the lights, and enjoy a mini-spa experience. Escaping your daily routine for a few minutes will bring yourself some joy. Add some essential oils to calm down and relax even more.
11. Exercise for Body and Life-Changing Magic
While the thought of working out might stress you out, the physical benefits have positive psychological effects, too! Whether you’re releasing lots of endorphins through a High-Intensity Interval Workout (HIIT) or stretching with pilates. It will not take long that you will see all the positive effects working out brings to your body – and that will bring joy to your life.
12. Make an Effort to Watch the Sunrise/Sunset
Even if you’re stuck in traffic driving home from work, there’s something so beautiful about watching the sky change colors. Taking a moment to pause and enjoy the scenery will help you spark joy even in nerve-wracking situations.
Spark Joy Every Day!
Bottom line: we’re all different people and have unique needs. But when we shift our paradigm from focusing on ourselves and how miserable we might be, to how we might improve the lives of others, we create such a sense of purpose and joy. We don’t have the time to wallow in our own problems, as we’re too busy brightening up the world around us.
There’s something so gratifying about a beautifully organized home, and a sense of peace when you don’t have too much stuff. Perhaps a well-maintained, tidy closet can help you open the doors to bringing joy and healing to those around you since you don’t have to focus on your own junk.
But when I consider the actions that really spark the most joy for me, it’s pretty simple. Given the choice between tidying up my house and investing in my relationships, my junk drawer and random piles aren’t going anywhere any time soon!