A doctor can determine the sex of the baby as early as the tenth week of pregnancy. Should you find out?
Today, there are many reasons parents want to know whether they’re expecting a boy or a girl. Some might want to decorate the child’s room with decorations that match the gender. Others want to buy suitable clothes in pinks or blues. Perhaps knowing the gender will help them to start establishing a bond with the child, or maybe they’re more concerned with keeping in control of the situation.
In a world where everything’s instantly available with one click of the smartphone, there aren’t many things we have to leave to chance, so it’s no wonder many expectant parents don’t want to be surprised after nine months.
When you can see the sex of the baby?
Some expectant parents, especially those with high risk pregnancies, can find out the child’s gender around the 10th week through a blood test called noninvasive prenatal testing (NIPT). This is different than amniocentesis, which also can test for a chromosomal abnormality.
Traditional ultrasounds aren’t able to identify the baby’s sex until around weeks 16-20, but if the baby’s not in a good position, it’s hard to tell if you’re having a boy or girl. Today, a gynecologist or ultrasound technician will usually tell the mother the sex of her child during a sonogram. If the parents don’t want to know the baby’s sex until it’s born, let your doctor know!
This is also the time when women first begin to notice the baby moving, and when many start to develop a close bond with their baby. They might feel that the way the baby moves is a reaction to their own behavior. The baby’s sleep phases are shorter and the mother’s body is less restricted when lying, so nighttime is a time you might feel your budding soccer star kicking inside. Stroking the abdominal wall can have a calming effect on the child and also intensify the mother-child bond.
Folklore about determining the sex
For centuries, there have been a lot of superstitious beliefs about how to determine the sex of the baby. There’s nothing wrong with most of them. For example, pimples during pregnancy are a sign for a girl, because she’s already stealing some of her mother’s beauty. Will cloudy urine and a wide belly will result in a beautiful daughter? Perhaps! Or maybe different food cravings might give some clues about the baby’s sex? There are countless of these “wive’s tales“, but most parents are only concerned about their child’s health.
Should you find out the baby’s sex? Questions to ask:
While there are several benefits of finding out the sex of the baby ahead of time, here are a few things to ask to make sure you REALLY want to know.
- Do I want a gender-neutral nursery?
- Do I want gender-neutral clothes for my baby?
- Can I handle the suspense of waiting a little longer to know if I’m having a boy or girl?
If you answered “yes” to all of these questions, you might want to wait to find out if you’re having a son or daughter. If you can’t stand the suspense any longer, thanks to modern medicine, you don’t have to wait quite as long.
Wanting to know the baby’s sex in advance is a personal decision and outsiders should not be allowed to interfere. Even if the pressure is great when someone asks: “And, what will it be?” – just smile with an inner radiance and say: “A baby!”