"But all my friends have a smartphone!" You've probably had this long and exhausting discussion before. Here are some things to consider when it comes to considering a smartphone for children.
Recently, there is a widespread discussion among parents and experts about whether or not allowing smartphones for children makes sense. While some argue that children don't need electronic devices, others stress the importance of ushering children safely children into the digital age.
But what should parents do? To start, you should weigh the pros and cons of cell phone use and children. Here are some starting points:
Having a phone or similar device can be very useful for your child. The main benefit is constant contact. Imagine the following: Your child missed the school bus and will be at home later. Maybe it's one of his first days at school and you might be wondering if everything is okay. A short call or text message and you can be sure everything is all right. A phone can also be helpful if there's a serious emergency and they need to call 911 or any other emergency number.
But while it's great to have these open lines of communication, do they really need a smartphone to make emergency calls or text you? A regular flip phone can accomplish the same purpose without the extra apps and features. Also, if "all their friends have a phone", can't they use one of those devices in emergencies?
Counterpoint aside, certain features on smartphones like "Find my iPhone" can let you know where your children are, and platforms like FamilyApp help you keep lines of communication open. Also, even if all their friends have phones since many of us no longer have landlines, it's reassuring to know that your older child can reach you if they're ever home alone.
Having a cell phone might be also good for teaching your children responsibility. Your child has to keep it charged and in working condition. You can also teach your kid financial responsibility with a phone. For example, you can set guidelines on who is paying for what in the context of the cell phone. So your child could buy their own camera editor app to help perfect their photos on social media.
But do you really need a smartphone to teach responsibility? While it's great to use a smartphone for these purposes, there are plenty of other real-life examples for teaching these lessons. Give your child a weekly allowance, and keep them accountable for doing weekly chores around the house. There are plenty of ways for an adult to teach their kids responsibility without texting or extra screen time.
A smartphone or tablet can also be a good learning aid. With appropriate apps for children, they can learn by playing. You can visit virtual museums, read online books, or practice math on your Android, Samsung, or iOS device.
While smart devices can supplement the educational process, even the best virtual museum isn't a substitute for the real thing. A reading app is great, but it's not the same as cuddling with your kids enjoying a book together.
Here are a few other potential unintended consequences of getting your child a smartphone:
Some children use a smartphone as a status symbol and bully children with older smartphones or with phones with fewer functions. If you do give your child a fancy new phone, be sure they understand it's a privilege, NOT a right. They don't need the latest iPhone or Android.
In the tech age, it can be tempting for kids to spend their leisure time glued to a screen with video games or mobile games instead of playing outside. This may have consequences for their physical health and their motor skill development.
Also, cell phones can be easily hacked and tracked. As great as it is to know where your kid is, make sure you've added extra security measures to keep their location safe from others.
There's a lot of great stuff available from a mobile phone, but there's also a lot of junk. Even if your child isn't trying to find something inappropriate, it's really easy to innocently visit the wrong webpage or see a questionable ad in an app.
Disadvantages aside, your children need to know how to deal with this technology. Therefore, some suggest to introduce them to the digital world in the early years. At first, it seems to be counter-intuitive, but some say learning how to deal with a smartphone is in terms of education and cognitive development the same as learning how to read a book. It's part of teaching responsibility: At first, your child needs your help and also needs to know the opportunities and the risks of using a cell phone. But after a while, they will learn which behavior is right and which not.
Check out the Common Sense Media Report for more thoughts on getting a smartphone for children. Their
research indicates that the age of your children is not the important point. You need to consider these three factors:
Consider some questions before giving your kids a cell phone: Can they stick to limits you set for minutes talked and apps downloaded? Do your kids need to be in touch for safety reasons? Here are more questions to consider.
These questions are important, but the more important aspects to consider depends on parents and caregivers. Will they be able to hold kids accountable, and make sure they only view their phones for a short amount of time? Are they able to regulate their own smartphone use? Can they make sure their children aren't able to access anything harmful or dangerous?
Overall, deciding the right time to give your child a smartphone is a very personal decision. But here's a good angle to consider. Think about families who you think are doing a really good job as parents.
How do they handle smartphone-use as a family? Were the parents intentional in their parenting, or did they use technology as a babysitter? What kind of family app do they use? Take the best of what they're doing, and apply those principles to your own family life.
No matter what you decide about smartphone use for your children and teens, make sure that that they're a supplement NOT a substitute to quality time spent as a family.